My first ladyboy date
Online dating sites had been my “go-to” as a way to meet women because let’s face it, dating is hard. But I know that it’s even more difficult for ladyboys. I recall the early days of my fascination towards dating ladyboys and their lives. I found them very brave but I cannot help but feel sorry for them because of their situation. Also, I tried to learn as much as I can about them and override the wrong ideas about them stuck in my brain. Time came that I realized they are no less than cisgender women and dating a ladyboy does not make me gay. Hence, I decided to open myself to having a relationship with a ladyboy.
As a westerner, most people in my culture don’t like the word ladyboy because they usually associate it with porn. That is not the case with the woman I am dating, who does not care about being called ladyboy. So how did we meet and how was my first night with her?
As an IT guy, I spent most of my time online and that is the reason why I found Sarah. Before, it was very difficult to find dating sites exclusive for transgender women and most sites that cater to them often display explicit content. By looking at those online dating sites, you can say that they are just for hookups and not real relationships. Luckily, I found MyTransgenderDate, which is a decent internet dating site for transgender women.
Creating a profile there is very easy. I was surprised by the number of transgender women looking for relationships. Meeting them through this site was uncomplicated and it transcended geography. I was in Paris when I found a partner in Asia. Honestly, I never had a chance to personally meet a ladyboy so I took a chance and befriended Sarah.
Sarah and I communicated through the site and she was friendly. At first, I asked questions that are not too personal because I know that there are topics she might be uncomfortable with. Through several weeks of talking to her, I began to like her for who she is. I was surprised that she is more of a woman than I can imagine. Chatting with her every night made me feel happy until I asked her if she is willing to date me. Since she is hoping to find a partner too, our relationship began. After a few months of having this online relationship, I flew to the Philippines to meet her.
Before I met Sarah, I never had the chance to actually meet a transgender woman. With all the thoughts in my head before I head to the airport, I was anxious and stressed. Fear began to build and I became uncertain about my feelings. However, she assured me that it’s going to be okay if we give it a chance. Meeting Sarah in person for the first time has been great. I can tell that it is no different from meeting a cisgender woman. She is very caring and how she presented herself during our online dates is the same as what she exhibited when I met her. We decided to stay in Manila for a few days before heading to Cebu, her home.
During my first night with her, there are things that exceeded my expectations. Contrary to popular belief, not all ladyboys are hypersexual. In fact, Sarah was modest and I understand that it is a cultural thing. My first night with a ladyboy is just as wholesome as it should be. We ate and talked like friends who haven’t seen each other for a long time. After a tiresome evening out, we just slept. It’s not like those you see in the movies but I enjoyed every moment of it. She was there when I woke up and we were always together until I had to go back home.
Looking back, I can say that this dating platform really stood up to its claim that it is a decent site. It helped me find a woman who loves me and I can say that I love her too. As of now, we are three years into our relationship and the first night with my ladyboy really made the difference.